5 Ways to Enjoy Non-Penetrative Sex

Ditch the boring, narrow definition of sex! Non-penetrative sex (aka "outerplay") can be just as satisfying and wild as intercourse, sometimes even more. Whether you're not feeling the idea of penetration or just want to spice things up, exploring outerplay is a must.

Just remember, penetration is just one of many options for sexual pleasure. And, honestly, it's not even the most important or effective for reaching orgasm. This is especially true for people with vulvas, who are more likely to orgasm through other forms of non-penetrative sex like oral clitoral stimulation or sex toys.

Non-penetrative sex has been labeled as foreplay for too long. Time to give it the spotlight and feel even stronger orgasms. And, FYI, orgasms aren't required for a fulfilling sexual experience. You can also take it slow and delay or skip the climax completely. All forms of sexual experiences are valid, and non-penetrative sex can help you figure out your desires.

So, let's get to it. Here are some tips to help you have a blast with non-penetrative sex.

 Clit-Stimulation 101

The clitoris is the only organ made for pleasure and nothing else. With thousands of sensitive nerve endings, it's a powerhouse for mind-blowing orgasms. But, often in straight relationships, cisgender women rely too much on vaginal penetration, which doesn't do much for the clit.

Non-penetrative clit stimulation lets you hit the whole clit and experience even stronger orgasms. Use your fingers, try oral sex, or go solo with clit sex toys and suction vibrators that stimulate the whole clit, not just the little button at the top. Clit suction vibrators use sonic pulses to vibrate the whole clit and deliver intense orgasms. You can also spice things up with a traditional clit vibrator like Rose Vibrator.

Mutual Masturbation Fun

Define sex however you want, it should be true to your experience and desires. You don't even need to touch each other to have a hot and steamy time. Masturbating with your partner, alone or together, can be a thrill. Face each other and get off while watching. Showing off your arousal to your partner can be a turn-on, and denying access to your body can also add excitement. But mutual masturbation isn't just fun, it's also educational. It gives you a chance to show your partner how you like to be touched and aroused. And it helps you understand how your partner likes to be touched. No one knows your body better than you, especially if you're into self-exploration and frequent masturbation. So, mutual masturbation can help you and your partner get on the same page and improve all your other sexual experiences.